by Dr. Sadie Allison
While you’re reading this, teams of designers, engineers and sexperts around the globe are dreaming up new devices for the betterment of humankind: pleasuring the prostate (Also known as the “P-spot” or “He-spot). You could spend a lifetime trying their many orgasmic creations. But then you’d have a funny walk.
Instead, why not narrow your choices to a handful of exciting prostate toys that’ll thrill you or your lover the most? And with this personal guide to P-spot play, you can get right to the bottom line.
First Things First: Finding the He-spot.
Look familiar? The prostate is identical to a woman’s G-spot. It’s located in approximately the same area as the G-spot, though it’s accessed through the anus, or “A-spot.” So, if you can easily find the G-spot, locating the He-spot will be a piece of cake.
If not, we’ve shared some pointers to guide your He-spot discovery. Slide your finger(s) about 2-3 inches inside the A-spot. With your fingers shaped in the classic “come-hither” motion, press upward against the anal wall, toward the belly button. The prostate is walnut-sized, with a squishy “palm-of-the-hand” texture.
Bingo! You’ve found the prostate. Now it’s time to play.
He-Spot Massagers: Precision on a mission.
By seeking out direct contact with the prostate, a He-spot massager can stimulate you or your partner to unexplored heights of pleasure. Your mileage may vary, yet it’s almost always worth the ride.
A He-spot massager is cleverly designed with a gentle upturn at the tip for precision aim at the He-spot, as well as easy insertion. The toy’s bulbous chassis is designed to feel good as it curves inside the Pleasure Tunnel. And its flared safety-base serves as a convenient joystick while it prevents the toy from slipping completely inside.
Start your adventure with plenty of preheating—never begin from a cold start. Lube up the toy, then insert it slowly into the A-spot, with the curved tip arching toward the belly button. If you’ve already found the He-spot with your finger, you’ll find it a lot easier with the toy. Be sure to talk it through, so you’ll know when there’s direct contact. Then gently rub and massage directly on the delicate P-spot—never poke or prod. Or you can simply maintain a steady light pressure while turning your full attention to the art of penis pleasing.
Once you’re comfortable with a basic He-spot massager, you can try hands-free models, which use natural muscle movements to excite the He-spot during lovemaking. And some designs even offer simultaneous taint stimulation for extra pleasure.
Once you or your partner gets comfortable with A-spot play, you’ll discover a new world of pleasure—along with better control over pelvic muscles and orgasms. This can lead to a highly coveted new-and-improved prowess in bed.
Do It the Right Way: Your Guide to Toy Safety
Toys are meant to be all fun and games—and they are—when you follow a few safety guidelines:
Smooth it. Feel around on new toys for any sharp edges or rough seams. Make sure the toy is perfectly smooth. For ultimate smoothness, roll a condom over it.
Clean it. Wash toys thoroughly before and after each use with an adult toy cleaner or antibacterial soap—then rinse thoroughly and air dry. If there are batteries, be sure to remove them first.
Stow it. After cleaning and air drying, wrap each toy in its own clean cloth or storage bag, then store it in a cool place that’s out of direct sunlight—and away from prying eyes.
Cover it. Certain toys have microscopic nooks and crannies that can harbor germs even if you clean those toys thoroughly. For the best protection, roll a condom over every toy—every time
Lube it. Always lube-up your toys. It seems like the opposite of what you’d expect, but silicone-on-silicone will actually melt the toy. Instead, use a water-based lube with your silicone toy, or wrap it in a condom.
Never do it. Do not insert wireless bullet vibrators into the A-spot—unless you want to explain to the ER doc why it’s lost inside your anus. Always use toys designed specifically for butt play: models that are made with flared safety-bases to prevent them from disappearing inside.
Now that you know the ins-and-outs of P-spot play, you’re ready to begin your backdoor exploration mission. Enjoy the ride.