G-Spot Hunting: How to Find It ... and Its Elusive Orgasm

Mistress Kay

Takeaway: The G-spot can produce intense, deep orgasms - if you know how to find it.

Have you heard of the Grafenberg spot? Maybe you've heard it under its more-popular name: the g-spot? The Grafenberg Spot gets a lot of press for its pleasure potential - and it can become a stress-point for a lot of people who feel frustrated that they haven't been able to discover this feel-good spot on their body. You might love the g-spot, you might end up hating it, but at the very least, you should give this spot a try at some point. That's what we're here for: to help you and your g-spot sex toy on your hunting mission.

Where Is the G-Spot?

Unlike a lot of pleasure spots (like the external clitoris, the penis, nipples, and more!), the g-spot is located internally. Inside the vagina to be exact - and it's not very easy to see. It can be just as difficult to find - it's challenging to reach your own!

In fact, there has even been some controversy over if there even is a g-spot, although now it is recognized as part of the internal clitoral complex. A specific g-spot roadmap is included below, but essentially, be prepared for some vaginal pleasure in order to hit that g-spot! (Do you know what other erogenous zone is similar to the g-spot? It's the prostate! Also known as the "p-spot", the prostate can be found inside the butt of people who have a penis.)

How Do I Find the G-Spot?

Turns out, finding the g-spot is a little more complicated than just finding the clitoris - or finding the penis. Hidden from view, it takes a bit more trial and error to locate the g-spot - but the end "results" can really make it worth your while! So let's explore some pretty simple steps for locating your g-spot:

Step 1: Get Yourself Warmed Up

Especially if you haven't found the g-spot yet, the first step is to be really, really aroused. A lot of things engorge with blood when you're really turned on - and the g-spot tissue is essentially one of them. This engorgement can make the g-spot feel even more pleasurable - and more practically, it makes it much easier to "find".

What "aroused" means is different to everybody, but I know I don't find a ton of g-spot pleasure until at least a half-an-hour of regular physical stimulation. To make the sensation drive me entirely wild, it's generally at least an hour. It's certainly easier said than done to make time for an hour of pleasure even before my "intended" event, but it's always worth it in the end for me.

Step 2: Get Yourself a Sex Toy

Now, we're not just here to sell you on things you don't need, but for g-spot stimulation, almost everyone needs a sex toy. Turns out, hitting the g-spot on your own - with just your hands - is really, really difficult. The g-spot is all up in there towards the belly button inside the vagina. While some people can definitely pretzel themselves enough to hit their g-spot with their own fingers, it's rarely very comfortable - and rarely very sustainable for long periods of time. If your g-spot is even deeper, it might be near-impossible.

That's why a sex toy designed for g-spot pleasure like the Sassy G is super essential. Sure, it actually does a fantastic job of pleasing the g-spot (which is what we want!), but most importantly, it allows you to easily reach the g-spot in the first place. No awkward pretzeling, no exhausted forearms, none of that business. So having a sex toy designed to hit the g-spot allows you to really hit the g-spot spot - easily! - in the first place. You're free to try self-stimulation of the g-spot without a sex toy, but we think you'll find that having a dedicated g-spot sex toy is really going to improve your experience. (And please don't try to replace a dedicated g-spot sex toy with any old household item! Only body-safe sex toys should be inserted inside you or your partner!)

Step 3: Find That Spot!

Next up is locating the g-spot. Once you're aroused and have your pleasure tools, you have to "find" the g-spot. This can be frustrating if you're a goal-oriented person, so I find it easier to think of this as a fun, self-exploration activity.